You probably already know that the Internet is an awesome tool. It has
all sorts of great tools for learning and producing. But it also has
all sorts of danger that your kids can fall into without much effort at
all. You may have heard some of the horror stories of kids lured by
predators into some terrible situations.
So how can you use all the great tools on the Internet and keep your
child safe at the same time? Obviously, a good filter will keep your
kids from seeing unsavory sites. WE recommends Bsafe.
Unfortunately, these filters can't keep your kids out of all the
dangerous sites, especially the social networking sites. These sites
aren't inherently evil, but do open up dangerous situations your child
may not be mature enough to handle (and some can lure even the most
mature people into dangerous spots). So what can you do?
Parry Aftab of www.wiredsafety.org gives five ways to help keep your child safe online:
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Google your child's name. Put quotes around the first and last name so
it's an exact match. Google their screen names, cell numbers, phone
numbers, and addresses. Send an alert to Google so they will notify you
any time this information appears. To do this, simply go to Google
Alerts (under the More section) and sign up.
If
you find anything about a child under 13, by law it has to come down.
With older children, you can usually find a rule to get it down as
well. WiredSafety might be able to help.
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Check your child's social network. See if they have a Myspace account
or any other social network. Tell them you want to see it tomorrow.
That gives them a chance to clean it up. Use it as a teaching moment,
not a gotcha moment. They will become an Internet safety expert
overnight.
• Tell your child that what goes
online, stays online FOREVER. Don't put anything online that they don't
want other people seeing. And make sure it's all password protected, so
only their real friends can see it.
• Share
passwords carefully and instruct those you give them to not to pass
them to anyone else. If you have a falling out with anyone who has your
password, change the password and make sure the estranged person
doesn't have the new one. Such people often become cyber-bullies and
can cause a lot of damage.
• Teach your child
the golden rule – treat others as you want them to treat you. And the
Internet golden rule – never do anything online that you wouldn't do
offline.
WiredSafety has a lot of other
suggestions that can help as well. Check out the website and be
vigilant with your children. Don't assume they aren't getting into
trouble. Even if your kids are mature enough to handle a lot of
situations, there are predators out there who are very sophisticated in
their schemes.
One last tip: Make sure you're praying for your kids. Ask the Lord to protect them. And to use you as an agent of protection.
PS. A good book that can help you protect your children from Internet predators is To Catch a Predator by Chris Hansen. The description of the book says it all: "To Catch a Predator
shares the true stories of families who have been targeted by
predators, revealing the tactics predators use to manipulate their
victims and why even cautious families can be vulnerable to their
attacks. He also offers suggestions from police officers, therapists,
and child predators on the best approaches for preventing these crimes.
Most critically, he provides parents with concrete steps they can take
to protect their kids today, including how to initiate meaningful
conversations with their children."